Yesterday, I needed to have a difficult conversation with a friend. I didn’t want to bring up the topic. My hands were tremulous and my stomach was turning over – inside out and outside in.
Finally after two hours of figuring out how to bring it up – I finally picked up the phone and dialed the number.
Well, lucky me – he responded with “hey, I’m in a meeting. I’ll call you back.”
Great. So much for courage. Anyway – over the next 40 min – we texted; and I bravely did the most difficult thing. I was fully and completely honest. And to my surprise – there was no hurt, no anger, no walls – there was honesty coming right back at me.
I loved it. Are all difficult conversations – as simple? Is it in the way we deal with them?
I am so inspired. I have always heard my mom quoting Warren Buffet – “Honesty is an expensive gift, don’t expect it from cheap people.”
Maybe being honest will let me know who should be a part of my life – and who shouldn’t. Shouldn’t the closest people around you deserve to see the side of you with no makeup, no walls and no fears?
I know all tough conversations are not easy. And not all of them have good endings – but like Ash Beckham says – A closet is no place for a human being.
But before you come out – you need to know when you are trapped inside. Some great indicators are:
1. A feeling of impending doom
2. Knots in your stomach
3. Fear of confrontation
If something is scaring you – talk about it, and talk about it today. Have that conversation. Face the facts. It will be tough. It will be trying. It will be soul bearing. But – So What?
At least you will know: where you stand, that you are loved for who you really are, or that someone doesn’t deserve to be in your life – because they just don’t care.
It may be difficult but you will come out of it feeling – a true sense of power. Power over your choices and your future.
I hope you are as inspired as I am – to come out of your closet!